I love an uneventful week. I ventured out on Tuesday to introduce my friend Israa at her book launch, hosted our friends and their kids for a playdate over the weekend, and spent the rest of the time at home (logging hours at my desk, and enjoying family time in the mornings and evenings). It was amazing. This week’s mundanity may have made me aware of my beige flags - quirky traits that are uniquely me (and raise eyebrows or confused expressions from my loved ones). Is loving a normal, uneventful week quirky enough to be a beige flag? Doubtful. But here are some of my noticeable ones: I’m a frequent furniture re-arranger, especially when I’m feeling mentally stuck. I finally cleared off and moved the pink couch in my home office this week, and the space feels immediately bigger and clearer. Another beige flag? Just staring at the space every time I walk by, taking it all in. I will listen to the same song, over and over, stopping just before I hit the point when I’ll be sick of it forever. That’s where I’m at with Cynthia Erivo and Ariana Grande’s Defying Gravity (anyone else? everyone else?). Some of my previous fixation songs are Will You Be There (the Michael Jackson song from Free Willy), Favorite Record by Fall Out Boy, Believe by Cher, A Sky Full of Stars (the Sing! version is Rho’s favorite), and Breathless by The Corrs. When I run on the treadmill or ride my Peloton, I have to set my resistance, incline, and speed to numbers ending in 0 or 5 (or 0.0 or 0.5) - nothing in between. I’m a compulsive book re-reader, but I have to alternate the formats when I re-read. I just finished Iron Flame (the dramatized, full cast versions) and I am slightly feral and heartbroken in equal measure. It’s an excellent refresher before Onyx Storm is released, especially as I’ve forgotten a lot of what happened (though that hasn’t stopped me from passionately recommending this series, and every other book I share). I eat the same breakfast virtually every day - and when I dare mix it up on a weekday, it throws me off my balanced meal game for the rest of the day. I learned this the hard way when I opted for leftover pad Thai on Tuesday morning instead of my usual yogurt + cereal with milk. Real milk in my cereal, always. And oat milk in my coffee (unless my mom is making me filter coffee, and then I let her do whatever she wants). My beige flags are hidden in plain sight in my monthly plan - a done-for-you collection of mindfulness practices, workouts, recipes, and things bringing me joy right now. If you’re in a “I need to take care of myself but don’t know how” rut, I hope it helps you:
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Flamingo Estate: The Guide to Becoming Aliveby Richard Christiansen I can’t think of the last time I properly read a coffee table book. But I spent a solid hour reading through the interviews and essays of this stunning, brilliant book from the founder of Flamingo Estate. It’s as gorgeous as you would expect. But I was blown away at the depth of the interviews with some of the most brilliant people - Jane Goodall, Alice Waters, Elise Loehnen - on living a life of beauty and pleasure and luxury through engaging your senses (and not about spending money, though this book may very much influence a purchase or two from Flamingo Estate’s shop). This book would be a perfect gift for yourself, for the rich aunties who spoil you or your kids, or those wealthy people in your life who are generous and you have no clue what to get them. You can find my 2024 reads here, and my November reads here. HANNI Splash Salve ($27 |
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A very helpful listen to take the pressure off the rest of the year while still getting everything done.
Having worn and washed this sweatsuit every week for the past 2 months, I can heartily endorse it for comfort and quality. I throw on a long wool coat over it when I’m running errands or doing the school run, inspired by the stylish Helena Hodne.
Would you hire an Etsy witch? I’m tempted.
I refreshed some of these essentials:
my favorite underwear - it now has a non-slip band on top and offers gentle compression (while still being the most comfortable I’ve worn). Their mid rise have been my go-to for years now, and I like the super high waist to wear under dresses.
I got the black version of my beloved Atoms, and these thin merino wool socks for the colder temperatures that are finally here.
I took advantage of the Black Friday deal for my favorite shampoo (perfectly timed, as my current bottle is nearly finished)
Two delightful show recommendations (both on the Hallmark Channel):
Finding Mr. Christmas (a reality show to cast Hallmark’s newest leading man), hosted by Jonathan Bennett (one of my favorite Hallmark leading men) - available on Roku, for free
Holidazed (an ensemble show centered on neighbors in the same cul-de-sac - each episode follows a different family, and I love how each episode is intertwined with others). This is exclusive to Hallmark+ subscribers (a streamer that is worth every penny for all the happy films and shows)
Two ‘treat yoself’ purchases - a wristlet phone case (I love that this one has great protection reviews and the strap can be attached at any corner) and a new Kindle case (cannot recommend this brand more - it withstands my heavy duty reading/traveling use)
An important reminder on the power of kindness over fear
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Please take exquisite care of yourself this week.
xo,
HPN
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