If you love #5SmartReads, would you be open to sharing them? You’ll get perks if you do! Set up your unique share link below and share #5SmartReads with anyone you think would enjoy them! Today is an incredibly sad one for millions of Americans. I want to take a moment to offer my condolences and love to those who lost someone or had their lives changed on this day 21 years ago. May we never forget, and may we also pursue a peaceful world where everyone can live in safety, dignity, and be able to thrive. The week after Labor Day always feels a bit chaotic, especially after having school-age kids. And this week especially felt like that. Both of my kids are back in school (and for the first time, at the same school!). Fall events are back in full swing, and my parents generously treated us to a day at the US Open to catch the quarterfinal matches on Wednesday. And in all that, there’s work to get done - meetings to schedule, emails to send (so many e-mails), work to actually do, projects to write and shoot. It was a chaotic week - and an extremely fun week. And as I sit on my couch on Saturday afternoon - still in my glasses and pajamas, Mickey Mouse Clubhouse on the TV for my kids and sipping a cup of tea - I’m simultaneously looking forward to all the plans I have this fall and yearning for the slowness of summer. This shift of seasons go beyond the weather. I’m also shifting from an off-season from speaking and events. I thoroughly enjoyed a slow summer where I was spending much more time with my family, taking my workouts and sleep and nutrition up a level, and enjoying much more leisure time to read and craft and do what I pleased. Fall is very much an on-season for me when it comes to work - more meetings and work travels, speaking engagements ramping up (I’m doing a workshop at the Women In Impact Summit on Tuesday and presenting an award at the She’s The First Power Party on Thursday - please join if you are able). And while my sleep is a non-negotiable, my workouts and meditations will have to be shorter and I’m investing in more ready-to-eat meals (Splendid Spoon, I love you) to sustain myself. This concept of off-season/on-season is one that I learned from my brilliant friend Komal, and it brings a sense of control as I review my overflowing calendar and inboxes. Lower impact workouts and Bharathanatyam adavas feel right for me. So do nourishing soups and cups of tea, and adding Equilibria drink drops to a club soda and bitters instead of accepting a glass of wine or a cocktail. I opt to read via audiobooks when running around the city or doing chores, and I’ve been re-reading old favorites in the evenings instead of making my way through my TBR pile. I think we tend to put a lot of pressure on ourselves to hit the ground running at 100 miles per hour when September hits amidst getting kids settled back in school, the influx of events and meetings and catch ups with friends, and preparing for the holidays that will be here before we know it. This is your permission slip to stop holding yourself to an arbitrary standard, to ditch the traditions or things that don’t bring you or your family any joy, to focus on the time spent together on the ones you do enjoy. This is your permission slip to ask yourself what you are feeling drawn to in this moment, and to give yourself some time to do just that. This is your fall. Whether it’s an on-season or off-season for you, carve out time to fill your own cup and savor it before you handle everyone else’s priorities and expectations. Cheers, my friend. I’m raising my Yeti (filled with ginger tea) to you. What I Read This Week
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The rest of the week’s reads + last week’s (and conversations!) are below: Your Questions, Answered Feeling so complex about queens death. They ruined generations and the livelihood of ancestors. This tweet sums up some of my feelings better than I could say, and I posted some more thoughts about it on Instagram:  Have you ever hired a decorator? How would you find one? (I’m in Boston) My friend Lee runs Havenly which is an amazing service to offer design services at a variety of budgets. You can also check out Apartment Therapy or Rue Magazine tours of homes in Boston and see who is credited as the designer and meet with them to see if you styles and budget are a fit! Do you prefer WFH or in-person office? Your favorite spot in Chinatown/ Little Italy/Lwr East Side please! Chinese Tuxedo, Dhamaka NYC (and the food hall it’s in), Dirt Candy NYC, and Williamsburg Pizza (also owned by another friend- I’m lucky!) are some favorite spots down there. I have to confess that I don’t spend much time downtown and tend to go to the same spots over and over, but can vouch for all of these! Your family is going to voice yourselves in a family cartoon. What animal are you all portrayed as? With Nalini Singh’s Psy Changeling Trinity series on my mind (you must read it, it’s amazing!), this is something I’ve definitely thought a lot about. I’m certain we would be some species of monkey! Where do you shop for traditional wedding outfits for your hubby? HoliCHIC’s new mens and unisex pieces are also fabulous. Best affordable work bag? Local staycation ideas for a kid free weekend? Troutbeck, Buttermilk Falls (the rooms are dated, but the property is great) are other beautiful options a short drive from the city. But if you wanted to stay in the city, I’d get a room at Conrad New York Downtown, eat at all the amazing downtown spots, and go for lots of walks up and down the river. If you could travel internationally to learn more about a culture/place- where would you go? An action figure is being made of you. What 3 accessories are included?
Grabbing early drinks at Bemelman’s… where do I eat after??
Do you feel there is nepotism in the South Asain blog world? Getting insta famous via IMM (Indian Matchmaking) I think there’s a pretty well-defined playbook of reality show > influencer path that The Bachelor really established. And while there are perks of the near-instant fame that being on a show can give you, there are a lot of downsides too - trolling to a traumatic level and having to leave social media, terrible press or simply wrong TikToks about you that your future kids can Google about you one day, bad editing to make you look like a villain, etc. So while the rapid fame may seem unfair (and it is!), there is a trade off that comes with it that most of these folks won’t bring up but I’ve seen them deal with and it makes me grateful to not have that level of spotlight on me. Hi! Do you have reeks for a quick weeknight dinner before a Broadway show? Is there a book genre that tells the tales of kickass career women and their lives? Would you take a 10 year old girl to see Six the Musical? Idea for celebrating daughter’s 4th birthday? Due with #3 around same time so no party. Whatever you do, it will be great and she’s a lucky daughter to have you as her mom. Are we leaving a better future for out kids? I struggle. Want to believe but action required. Ugh. Having children is the most optimistic thing you can do, and it has also kicked my butt into taking small actions of citizenship and philanthropy every day because I know that I’m doing it for my kids (and if they choose to have them, their kids). Gift ideas for FMIL who has done so much for upcoming wedding! I personally love jewelry, and would gift her a personalize piece from Haverhill Collection with HER birthstones to celebrate and honor her- I love the Rosecliff small circle necklace, or the Grand 1 set! Code hitha15 will get you 15% off. But more than anything, finding a healthy and good rhythm of visits and spending time together (the two of you and as a wider family) is the best gift you can give. The wedding is just beginning of your lives not just as a couple, but as a bigger family. Have a wonderful week! xo,
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